Authenticity and Being Imperfect

"Authentic" has become a bit of a buzzword recently, but I think that we may be using it incorrectly. I mean, it almost seems that authenticity is now just another type of perfection--another standard for us to live up to. "Be your authentic self" has turned into a goal that we need to "strive for," but true authenticity doesn't require that much striving. When we're really authentic, we're not trying to seem authentic or act authentic because authenticity isn't acting.

One of the biggest blocks to authenticity is this idea that we need to be "perfect." How do I look? What does ___ think of my outfit? Is __ right?  All of these thoughts and worries just create anxiety and pull us from the moment. How can we ever be fully present when we're busy thinking about our posture or skin or hair?

What's awesome is that none of us have to be perfect. We're not meant to be. We're meant to be loving and compassionate and caring, sure, but perfect? Perfect isn't possible, and when we just accept that and act like our normal selves, our relationships and experiences with others are much more meaningful for both us and those we are with. Isn't it more fun to be with your friends when they're being themselves than it is when they're trying to act like someone else? 

Let's drop the pressure to be perfect. Just let it fall to the floor like baggage you don't need anymore.

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When we stop trying to be perfect and start focusing on being authentic, sincere, and kind, we can participate in life more fully. Treat yourself like you'd treat your friends, remember that sincerity is adorable, and make the most of today. 

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